I wanted to get this blog post out whilst it was fresh in my mind. January is filled with new beginnings and fresh starts which should be so motivating right?
I WISH. I spent the first twelve days of January not leaving my room, not leaving my bed actually. We are now on the 18th of January and I finally feel back to… somewhat normal.
Let’s flashback to the first week in January, the new lockdown rules were announced and honestly, they had not really changed much for my location, but it hit me hard. Knowing that I would be stuck in the house for another few months along with the conclusion that my travel plans were yet again delayed due to this virus, sent me over the edge.
Now, if you can’t already tell, I love blogging, but I couldn’t even find the motivation to blog, to get dressed or leave my bed on most days.
I was in an emotional and very vulnerable state and was easily irradiated by everything around me.
BUT, I managed to pull myself out it, with the help of others too, but I thought I would create this post to share the tips that I have used for getting motivated when you’re in a funk.
Getting started is the hardest part, believe me, I understand. A really good tip I learned this time around is to not push yourself back into normal life. You’ll scare yourself back into the funk as it will be too overwhelming.
I tried to do a full day of blogging and it just didn’t work, I was fed up and felt worse.
Start doing things in stages and don’t think too far ahead. I started with simple things.
- Changing my PJ’s (I honestly couldn’t get dressed straight away, but changing my PJ’s got my mind in a routine of getting up and changing) I eventually swapped them out for clothes.
- I went for small walks in the garden. Like I literally took the rubbish out just to get some fresh air. I then took Lola out for a walk. The next day I walked to the shop. Each day I would walk further and build up my confidence.
- Leaving my room. This was a tough one. I love my room. I feel comfortable and safe in it. That sounds like I don’t feel safe in my house, but my room is my environment, I hope that makes sense! I started taking my laptop to the living room to work on the couch for an hour, then I would come back to the room. I would then come back downstairs and sit with my mum for half an hour.
You don’t have to complete three hours of meditation and a four-hour walk on the first day. Give your mind and body a chance to adjust, there’s no need to rush.
Give yourself space.
Getting back to what you love
I love blogging, social media, emailing, I love every part that is associated with blogging but when I was in my lowest state I couldn’t bring myself to look at it.
So what did I do?
Honestly, there were a few things that brought the spark back.
- Reassurance. I was on Pinterest looking for a dinner recipe and I noticed my monthly views were higher than usual but never thought anything of it because Pinterest views aren’t blog views. After having a quick check on my Pinterest to notice that one of my pins had over 90 clicks and it was only posted a few days ago. I remember dancing about in the kitchen. That reassurance that my blog and Pinterest that I had worked endlessly on was actually speaking to people and working. This was amazing for helping me feel motivated whilst in a funk.
- Getting back to the bits I loved. My favourite part of blogging is creating new content and research. I started doing this part first, just doing small amounts of research for things that I could write about. The motivation slowly started to creep in as I was excited to share my ideas.
- Speaking to other bloggers. It’s nice to know that I was not alone in my situation. Blogging is my dream, but sometimes it’s exhausting. Working my normal 9-5 job to then blog for 5/6 hours a night and sometimes only receive a handful of views, but I know what I signed up for. I got some amazing feedback about my blog and it pushed me to keep going.
- Music/podcasts. I really can’t thank music and podcasts enough for helping me feel motivated in my funk. I got my speaker on and blasted Justin Bieber, yes I am a fan. This really lifted my spirits. Podcasts are another great way of building motivation as you can listen to other people’s motivational stories.
Sometimes I wish I took my own advice.
Whenever I speak to someone who is anxious or feeling the effects of anxiety, I always give the advice that they should speak to someone close to them about how they feel.
Do I take this advice when I feel like that?
Do I eventually cave in, have a complete meltdown and go… “wow, I wish I told you sooner about how I felt, I feel so much better getting it out”
Every single time I speak out about my anxiety, the effects it has on my life, I feel better. I feel like the weight has lifted. Also, an outside perspective always helps. This is one of the best tips I can give you when it comes to getting motivated when you’re in a funk.
A ritual Lyle and I have is, if I am feeling anxious, he’ll let me sing my favourite mamma mia songs in the car whilst we drive around the street. Something so simple but very effective.
Open up to the people around you, and I will try to as well. Being honest and open about your feelings can really benefit you. Don’t bottle everything up as I can promise you, you are not alone in the way you feel.
Another thing I am guilty of is pushing myself when I’m not ready.
In December, I was feeling HELLA motivated, I had created planners, blog posts, running a business along with a blog AND working AND living my life. I was happy and loving life.
SO, in January when I didn’t feel motivated because of my funk, I thought… maybe if I go back to my December schedule, it will help.
Nope, that did not work.
I ended up overwhelming myself and when something would go wrong – even something little – I would breakdown.
Be patient with yourself, there’s no rush. Give yourself the time and space you require to get back to your normality.
Another side note attached to that is, it’s getting back to YOUR normality. If you don’t normally work 9 hours then blog for 6, then don’t be disheartened if it doesn’t happen straight away.
Routine takes time, but keep repeating what you can and you’ll get there!
I hope you find peace and understanding in this post and realise you are not alone in the way you are feeling.
If motivation is low, slowly start to build on it and try not to be disheartened if it doesn’t happen overnight. It’s not a race.
Finding motivation when you’re in a funk isn’t always easy, but remember to reach out for help, use resources and you’ll do it.
I believe you can.