I felt it was necessary to make this blog post.
I have spoken with countless girls over the festive period and in January and the common theme is anxiety, low mood and bad days. Well, this blog post is going to be about anxiety over January, my anxiety and what we can do to help each other.
The thing with anxiety is, people tend to suffer in silence and don’t realise that they are not alone in the way they feel. When I started this blog, I wanted to be as open and as real as possible.
Here is it.
Having to battle with your own mind is tiresome and it’s okay to have bad moments. You are not alone in feeling this way.
If you’re not interested in my anxiety, I won’t be offended! Keep scrolling until you get to “Anxiety in January”
I have suffered from anxiety since I can honestly remember but it was.. manageable and nothing like what I experience now. It wasn’t until two years ago, I was on the train home from work and I had this rush of panic and sheer dread come over my body for NO apparent reason. I honestly thought that was the end.
I remember going to A&E honestly convinced something was seriously wrong and all it was… was a really bad anxiety attack. Oh, the joys.
I took around two to three weeks off work and nothing improved. I just got myself into a paranoid state and I didn’t want to go back to work.
Being completely honest, I don’t actually remember a lot of detail. When I think back… it’s very foggy like it was a dream… if that makes sense.
January 2020 was the turning point. I had called the doctors for an appointment basically giving in and was accepting help was required and was told that I would need to wait four weeks for an appointment and to try “a hot bath” and to use the calm website. I had a light bulb moment that they were not going to help me at all and I was going to have to get out this myself.
So, where did I start? I looked at the negative things in my life. My job for starters. I had worked there for two years, which was the longest time I had worked at a job and even though I HATED it at the end, I was terrified to leave in case I regretted it. Update, I left my job and it was the BEST decision.
I got into yoga which really helped with practising breathing.
I honestly felt like I was getting somewhere and then BAM, lockdown happened and I crumbled once again.
Fast forward to August 2020, I had a night out and the “fear” and anxiety that I felt.. I’ll never forget it. It was then I knew I had to really take it seriously and change my life.
The steps that I took were:
- Seeing a therapist once a week (CBT counselling) I cannot recommend this enough. This really did play a large part in my life doing a 180) This was of course all over a zoom call, but she was still amazing as ever.
- Cut out the booze. I said goodbye to the partying and booze and my god what a difference. Then, I stopped drinking for around four and half months, then decided I would treat myself to drink at Christmas and I can honestly say I am not bothered about it and will be going another four months without it.
- I found a hobby in my life that I am extremely passionate about. Blogging and creating planners. Having something to focus my mind on which benefits not only me but now other people is amazing.
- Take self-care seriously. I now set time aside for myself and I’ve also learned to say no. It’s okay to look after yourself, despite some people’s views on it being selfish. You should love yourself first.
- Manifesting. This was my favourite part. I remember reading The Secret and thinking this cannot be real, and here we are, four months later and I am closer to my goals than ever before. Through hard work and manifesting.
- Understanding my body and mind. I am fascinated with human design, horoscopes because it helps me understand who I am. My traits (good and bad) and it “clicks” in my head.
- I opened up about my anxiety. It’s so liberating and terrifying at the same time to tell people about your fears and emotions. I am still learning to push myself – hence this blog post – because I want to show that talking about anxiety is okay, feeling anxious is okay and we shouldn’t hide it.
That’s my “short story” of my anxiety journey. I haven’t touched on what type of anxiety I have yet, it’s still… new to me and I hope to share it with you all soon.
January Anxiety – How to overcome it
January already is known as one of the lesser months. Just after Christmas and New Year, sometimes you overspend and now to be placed in a national lockdown, it can’t be easy. But January anxiety is doable and you can overcome this!
BUT, I thought I would share some things I am doing or planning to do to get me through the month.
- Reach out to people online. Listen, I know it’s not the same as seeing your friends in the pub and having a laugh, but use this time to reach out and make new connections. I joined countless Facebook groups to meet like-minded women. I have made some amazing friends through them. Also, I have a Facebook group, if you would like to join, click here!
- Up my self-care game. I LOVE self-care if you can’t already tell but I’ve been lacking. I have been working my 9-5 job and blogging 5-11 every single day. literally, not had a day off in months. I am so bad for just wanting to power through… so remember to self-care! Use a self-care planner or keep a diary of what you have done to keep track.
- Try a new hobby. If you’re furloughed and have more time on your hands or even if you are just looking for something to help pass the time when you are home, get a hobby! Sewing, blogging, cycling. The list is endless!
- Practice meditation. This is something I have struggled with as I find it difficult to be at one with my thoughts. In January, I am going to follow the 8 phases of the moon and learn how to meditate along with it.
January is a fresh start. Use this time to build new goals, aspirations and learn to love yourself again.
What can we do to help each other?
Throughout January, I have been trying to help people in every way I can. By posting freebies, speaking to people when they need advice and just generally trying to be a better person.
Things you can do to help people:
- Ask the simple question, are you okay? Just a simple message to let someone know you care can make the difference.
- Share small businesses! You don’t have to purchase, but a share, like or comment can really make the difference.
- Go out your way to be kind, at least once a week. Try and do something that is totally for someone else. For example, I play Roblox with my sisters. I really don’t understand or like the game, but it makes them so happy when I play it.
- Share positive vibes. If you’re feeling positive, share it with everyone. Sometimes a good quote can really help kick start someone’s motivation.
- Last but not least, just be kind. Everyone is going through something, everyone has a story and so it costs nothing to have manners and just be nice to people because it really could make that person’s day.
I hope you’ve enjoyed this post, I realise it’s a little different to my usual posts, but I wanted to get it off my chest and it shows my readers another side of me! January anxiety doesn’t have to be a thing, you can do this!