Everyone has fears. Some are big and some are small. Fears are natural but it’s important to face them and challenge yourself.
From personal experience, I found it best challenging my fears when I was in a good headspace. This allowed me to focus on my fear instead of multi-tasking my problems.
I’ve overcome a number of fears over the last eight weeks whilst in Bali and I have learned some great tips that I can’t wait to share with you.
What were my fears?
My fears range from “normal” fears to some not so normal fears but the process was the same. Following my five-step process, I managed to overcome the following fears:
- Jumping into deep water
- Moving to Bali
- Sweating in public (I was always really nervous when I had sweat patches on my clothes)
- Flying on an airplane
5 step plan for how to face your fears
The buzz that I felt once I overcame these fears was…indescribable. Challenging yourself throughout life is really important and I’ve learned to strive to be better. Everyday.
Following this five-step plan, I managed to face my fears head-on.
Step 1 – recognize the fear
When fear seems… irrational, it’s common that we hide it because we are scared of judgement, which is another fear in itself. Owning your fear is the best first step to take when overcoming a fear. There’s no need to feel embarrassed as everyone has fears, some will not apply to you but apply to others, and that’s okay.
Sit and write all the fears that you have in your life. This can be your fear checklist. Focus on one fear at a time as you don’t want to overwhelm yourself.
Greatness takes time.
Step 2 – tell your support circle
Overcoming a fear doesn’t have to be done alone! Having support from your friends and family is a key ingredient.
I mentioned above I have a fear of jumping into deep water, basically water where you can’t touch the ground. I recently went to a pool club where there was a jumping board. The pool was around 5 meters deep. All of my friends were jumping in and I never really thought about it. Like it was just known that it wasn’t something I would do as I was open about my fear.
One of my friends said, would you do it if I wait at the bottom for you and help you out. I honestly never even thought of asking for help. After five minutes of contemplating, I decided to go for it.
Without my friend asking to help me overcome my fear, I would never have done it.
She waited at the end for me and was a great support.
Be open with your friends and family and ask for help for overcoming your fear. If it wasn’t for my friend, I would never have done it.
Throw yourself in the deep end (not literally)
You can plan and plan all you like but the end result will be the same. My best advice is to just do it. The best thing I’ve heard about anxiety and how to deal with it is:
“Why worry about something that’s going to happen in a week if you’re going to worry about it at the time. You’re worrying double the amount for no reason.”
That really stuck with me. Whenever I worry about something that will be happening in a week or a month, I reassure myself that I can worry about it when the time is appropriate.
Celebrate the wins
Facing your fears is a huge deal. It’s important to celebrate the wins. Reward yourself when you overcome a fear.
Things you could do are:
- Dinner with friends
- Buy something you wanted for a while
- Book an event or holiday
- Visit family
Don’t accept defeat if you can’t do it first time. Try, try and try again
Not everything can happen the first time. If you don’t succeed the first time, try again! There’s nothing wrong with taking five or five hundred attempts. What is important, is to not let it get you down when you are unable to overcome your fear.
If you do need to repeat the above steps, that’s no problem. It’s your fear and you should take it at your own pace.
Going back to my fear of jumping into deep water. I’ve been in multiple situations where I could have overcome my fear, but I wasn’t ready. It takes time.
I am in my twenties and I see small kids jumping in the water and I envy their confidence. I pull myself back and remember that everyone has different fears. Don’t let someone else discourage you.
Conclusion – How to face your fears
Although it’s cliche, Rome wasn’t built in a day. It’s important to take your time, assess situations and enjoy the challenge.
The fact that you’re reading this post and ready to start challenging your fears is amazing and you should be proud.
What are some of your fears?